What is a "remarried widow?"
A remarried widow shouldn’t exist. People ask her, “how can you call yourself a widow if you’re also married?” She’s milking the label. They don’t know what it was like to be married, widowed, and single all at the same time, 3 labels she never chose to wear together. She’s already cheated on a dead man. Nothing gets more absurd beyond that, so she keeps the labels that fit.
A remarried widow may be two things at one time, but she can never be what she was before.
A remarried widow is used to being a problem to somebody. She knows there’s not that much in life that she can control so she doesn’t accept a lot of the rules that others live with.
A remarried widow is grieving, but she is not alone.
A remarried widow is comfortable being two things at once, satisfied with ambiguity, and secure in her definition.
A remarried widow raises children who have one Daddy who died and another Daddy who met him a few times and thought he was a good guy and who will show up at soccer practice.
A remarried woman has made some tough decisions, and has also been presented with some easy choices.
A remarried widow enjoyed her independence, for a moment.
A remarried widow is sharing a story with a happy ending, and she knows you’re comfortable hearing about it only because of the last bits. She accepts this frustrating aspect of socializing but she is still thankful to own all the earlier parts of the story, too, as well as what may be next.
A remarried widow says, in public, that she knows how lucky she is to have had two great loves in one lifetime. Secretly she thinks it’s an option for everyone.
A remarried widow is not remotely interested in your “epic” kitchen remodel.
A remarried widow inspires women whose lives are recently broken, especially those who can’t imagine kissing someone new.
A remarried widow wears black, but never to weddings.
A remarried widow is pretty judgmental about most divorces.
A remarried widow recognizes her duties and her pleasures.
A remarried widow cries at weddings, funerals, and birthdays.
A remarried widow has really good life insurance coverage and so does her husband.
A remarried widow does not want to go through it again, but doesn’t want to die first, either.
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