tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post7986365631467355296..comments2023-07-31T09:35:21.967-04:00Comments on Fresh Widow: About Monday HolidaysSupa Dupa Freshhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07659738264922395349noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-57643345216551354942010-05-31T21:23:41.990-04:002010-05-31T21:23:41.990-04:00The post and the two comments ALL have helped me t...The post and the two comments ALL have helped me today, which is not only Memorial Day (my husband was a WWII Marine officer veteran) but also the exact 2nd anniversary of the funeral. I went out to the cemetery today. I have a widow's blog, too: newpathsforever.blogspot.com, so I will not go into it all here. But your comments about loneliness helped me. And the comments about Memorial Day and learning and sharing family history with our children, also helped. Thank you.Pathfinderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00171862361582840825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-27232832926676925822010-05-31T10:33:30.393-04:002010-05-31T10:33:30.393-04:00Weekends, extended or not, could be long, but the ...Weekends, extended or not, could be long, but the pro/con of workday versus day off were pretty even. On work days I had a break from my child only to be trapped in a school with the needy children of others - which was restful or not depending. And weekends got better as my daughter got older and could amuse herself and I was able to get a bit more sleep in/nap time.<br /><br />Though we didn't have much of a support system, I had a couple of friends who always invited us to their family gatherings on holidays though I didn't always take them up on it and we traveled back to my parents a bit where my daughter had a cousin her age and a great-aunt who loved to watch her for me.<br /><br />So much of that time is losing its edges for me. My husband's been dead for almost five years and counting the time he spent living away from us during his illness in nursing homes and the fact that he was brain-damaged past the point of being interactive - we've technically been without him for close to seven years. It's all so far in the past that I can recall events and even feelings but only remotely. There's almost no cause to go back there anymore but for the odd commenting I do on FB and some widow blogs and I am starting to wonder about the wisdom of that.<br /><br />Memorial Day for me was a time to learn about my family history as I tagged along with my grandmother at the cemetery. They were good times. The only one on one time I got with her because I was the only one who was interested in what she had to say. I find myself doing the same thing with my own child - telling her stories about our family. We rarely get back to the countryside of my childhood. The last time was about a year before my father died. We toured the farm area where he grew up and visited the old church graveyards. It was nice. Memorial Day can be painful to those fresh in grief, but in my experience, over time it becomes a day for reconnecting and passing things on.anniehttp://anniegirl1138.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-1073897077408041202010-05-31T00:23:50.532-04:002010-05-31T00:23:50.532-04:00I am totally with you on this one. And two more e...I am totally with you on this one. And two more elements makes Monday holidays so deadly -- when I am invited to some event, it's with a bunch of happy, intact families, with all these men around. Dads wrestling with their kids, husbands getting their wives something from the drink table. Then, coming home after a BBQ or picnic and having to get a small fussy child safely in bed, then unload the car and put everything away, is Exhausting. Sometimes it's hard to know whether it's better to just stay home.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07711099868038554656noreply@blogger.com