tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.comments2023-07-31T09:35:21.967-04:00Fresh WidowSupa Dupa Freshhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07659738264922395349noreply@blogger.comBlogger1368125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-57271563498570143412014-05-25T02:54:15.315-04:002014-05-25T02:54:15.315-04:00I lost my wonderful husband after a nine year figh...I lost my wonderful husband after a nine year fight with cancer and I do understand so much of what is written here. But I did have to finally face the fact with his last hospital stay that he would not survive - this time. He had endured so much over those years - chemo, radiation, spleen removal, angioplasty, 3 bouts of pneumonia and many, many infections - some real, some of those ubiquitous "FUO" - fevers of unknown origins. But each time he came through, picked up his life again and went on. But the last week of his life while in hospital he slipped into a coma and suffered so much. Finally the nurse took me aside and told me that this was such a common thing with someone "hanging" on because of not wanting to leave a spouse. I was told I should tell him that it was ok to go, that I would be ok, that I loved him and always would. Those were the hardest words I ever spoke in my life but I finally had come to realize he would not pull through this and it was time to life him go. I did speak those words to him and even though in a coma, I know he heard me. And the next morning after I had said all that to him a few hours previously, he took his last breath and slipped away. Dying isn't what we see in movies or on TV. It's hard and it is is brutal. But I knew the day before his death that he would not live much longer and I had to let him go. It took me months, yes, years to finally come to the point that I felt my life once again was worth living and when that realization came to me, it was like a blessing. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-51829220333381904942014-04-20T02:50:36.359-04:002014-04-20T02:50:36.359-04:00The thing that turns me off about the whole widowe...The thing that turns me off about the whole widower thing is that everyone expects women to be the emotional caretakers for men. And it just makes me wanna puke seriously. Because that is the reason no one is talking about dating widows. <br /><br />Because taking care of anyone is so bizarre to a man. It's alien. But everyone expects women to do this. All the time and no matter what. To 'fix' him. Because as a woman and the only one concerned about the relationship naturally, everything is her responsibility. It's actually quite sick. To women of course but not to men. In fact men would probably find it humiliating. Because feminine (and nurturing) behavior is mocked in this culture. As 'weak' and inferior. As belonging to the female class of people. <br /><br />A woman who is sad and vulnerable and needs comfort is very heart-breaking and all, but what's in it for him? That's all a man is really concerned with. It's not that outrageous in fact it's the most common thing in the world. What women don't understand is that no one expects him to take care of you, but they expect you to take care of him. Hey, he's a guy. He's bad at emotions. Whattaya want from him? etc etc..<br /><br />Unless you birthed him, unless he came out of your vagina then he is not your responsibility. Wake up ladies! Oh dear what a shitstorm I'm going to set off with the guys. Oh well. Do whatever you want with this. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-91127444614091489542014-03-15T21:07:52.185-04:002014-03-15T21:07:52.185-04:00I have just found Martha Hickman's blog. I bo...I have just found Martha Hickman's blog. I bought her little book "Healing after loss" in 2001. I had lost my beloved husband in 2000 and at that time and afterwards just felt that really no one knew how I felt. I had found several "grief" books but none seemed to be what I needed. When I ran across hers one day, I bought it and immediately told myself "this woman knows what I am feeling". I read it every day and over these now almost 14 years since I lost my husband, I still pick it up and read. I've given about a dozen or so of them to other widowed friends and relatives in the hope that they too, can find some solace in those words. My daughter just recently lost her husband and I gave her a copy. I wrote Mrs. Hickman a few months after I found her book and she very graciously answered my note. I've since remarried but the experience of losing my husband who I was married to for nearly 48 years changed me profoundly and made me realize that life and our loved ones are so precious and so fragile. This blog will now become my daily read, too. Thank you Mrs. Whitman for your sweet and profound words over so many years.<br />Carolyn Kennedy Dominy<br />Macon, Ga Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-54752335350671447652014-01-31T15:53:56.267-05:002014-01-31T15:53:56.267-05:00It has been a few years since my father passed awa...It has been a few years since my father passed away. I don't understand why people unintentionally make things awkward when his passing sometimes come up. Great post.Jonathanhttp://larkinmortuary.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-68376168974505489462013-12-04T10:09:09.037-05:002013-12-04T10:09:09.037-05:00I'm so glad I found your blog. I lost my husba...I'm so glad I found your blog. I lost my husband in 2005. I'm really glad to find a place where I can share with people who understand.kathyj333https://www.blogger.com/profile/15110175842037413974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-90801816121505938772013-10-30T23:18:35.158-04:002013-10-30T23:18:35.158-04:00Wow, thanks for normalizing the need to tell peopl...Wow, thanks for normalizing the need to tell people, and even complete strangers that I am a new widow. My 46 year old husband passed away 18 months ago and I still feel this need. Recently my 17 year old son commented "I'm not sure you needed to tell him about Dad" after I told him about my husband. Part of me thinks I don't want the world to forget him. But on the other hand, reading your blog stings a bit as I see you are still have those awkward conversations. It truly will be our identity forever. As a nurse, I recall reading charts of elderly women who had been widowed at a young age and felt saddened for their loneliness and struggle they must have faced as young women and mothers. I guess one day that will be some nurse looking at my chart (that is if I live that long). Arrgghhh, the challenges are ever changing in widow world.<br />thanks for this blog.<br />j.Coveparenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05948805808200753420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-60127642472488080892013-10-17T21:54:35.717-04:002013-10-17T21:54:35.717-04:00Jane, you are a smart lady so you give us a lot of...Jane, you are a smart lady so you give us a lot of info. It sounds like your needs are not being met. OTOH it is only 7 months (although you have known him much longer). Do you feel you are being treated badly? If he were divorced, would you be less willing to cut him slack? What does your gut say? Life is complicated but advice columns are sometimes simple -- and I don't pretend to run one of those, this thread notwithstanding. :-)Supa Dupa Freshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07659738264922395349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-79489668556957755332013-10-16T20:31:36.480-04:002013-10-16T20:31:36.480-04:00Wondering if there's anyone out there who can ...Wondering if there's anyone out there who can advise/help. I'm dating a widower for the past 7 months. I've known him for 7 years prior to his wife's horrible death from cancer (we worked together when his wife was sick and passed. I had met her and his children previously). He has 4 children (12, 17, 18 & 20). The oldest 2 are daughters who have had eating disorders since Mom passed away and have been admitted to hospitals on an in-patient basis. You can imagine how much time he spends dealing with their food issues and hospital issues, and I don't mind that at all...I would think badly of him if his kids weren't his first priority, especially the two that are ill! I am writing this because I truly like this guy and he's worth keeping if I can work my way through this. I'm not blinded by my feelings for him at all. He has all the qualities that I've been looking for in a man since my divorce 13 years ago. He adores his kids and focuses on them as he should to help them through their issues. Problem is, he still wears the wedding ring (wife died in Dec. 2009), there are pictures of her all over his house. I know he still has SOME of her clothes, but his room is not littered with them or most of her possesions. But I feel he has not moved on yet. I describe it as there's a bubble around him and his kids and I'm outside the bubble and sometimes feel like I'm intruding. Example - he neglected to invite me to his neice's wedding last month, which he and his kids all attended, along with 99% of his family, who he has introduced me to. I asked him why he didn't invite me, and the excuse was that he was wrapped up in his daughters' food issues and who was going to the wedding, etc., and just never got around to inviting me. Very weak reason. His oldest daughter actually asked him if he intended to invite me. He has introduced me to all of his family and frieds, including Mom. I've developed friendships with his friends and like them very much and they like me. I'm 100% certain his children like me a lot. I don't to push myself into their lives in any way. I don't want to be their mom, replace her, or act like her. They need her memory (I lost my dad when I was 9 and wish I had more memories of him so I can related to wanting to keep those memories as best as possible). Bottom line: this is not his friends, his kids, his family. This is him. How long should I wait before I pull the plug? He's really a great guy so I'm being as PATIENT as possible, but I feel he needs to make room in his heart/life for me. When I described the "bubble" that I'm outside of, he said it will just take time. I don't want to remove his memory of his deceased wife at all, I just want him to find a place for me in his life. He claims to be ready for a relationship. I asked him if he is ready on our first date and then again during the discussion about the wedding. He claims to be, but actions speak louder than words. I find myself pulling back from him because I don't want to get hurt. I could fall in love with him, but won't allow myself to do so because I know he is not in love with me. How can he be when he still wears her ring (which, I swear is lit from within by a lightbulb because it's all I see sometimes)? I also recoil from his left hands....And, yes, her voice is on his answering machine. Why would he get involved with me? I know he cares about me on some level. I let him lead because I don't feel like I should pursue him on any level. I do not chase him at all. Further, even though he has introduced me to everyone he knows - all friends and family, I don't feel comfortable introducing him to my co-workers at work events or some friends. How do I explain that ring, which if you haven't noticed, really bugs me. I don't know if I should end this and move on or not.....opinions please.Janenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-5574146282316422692013-09-20T12:46:35.783-04:002013-09-20T12:46:35.783-04:00Having dated 2 widowers, there were issues and pro...Having dated 2 widowers, there were issues and probably due to the rebound effect, too much hurry on their part at first. Then again if I would have known them for years prior to meeting them, its quite possible they were cracked nuts before and during their marriages. I use the same boundary technique for a widower as I would in dating single, or divorced. They are a man and we've all had hurts and issues and I am not the cause of yours nor you for mine. We realize that our history is history and we have travelled that road but lets not bring it into our bed every day and centre every issue that we may have for fifty years on the fact that "somebody did somebody wrong" or "someone died in our life"...there are sadly only two absolutes...we live and we will die.<br />I am so sick of this Widower Disease. Its not special to be a widower is right but more than anything the women dating them present themselves as "extra special" to the cause and they are the mens saviors. Years later they are still waiting for a commitment and none is forthcoming. Of course not. Men are men, believe them when they say they are not going there, don't think you will change them and if you can guilt trip one to the aisle your looking for trouble. If you married a widower, make sure issues are communicated before, and if I meet one and he is still obviously wishing she was I, I will not stay...I have better things to do than wait on someone grieving. If your out there looking, your ready and if you not ready, then stay home.<br />For the women who are all over the internet boo hooing about their plight..You have two choices, either put up or leave. You can not change him , you will not change him, stop blaming everything on the late wife due to your own insecurities and if someone dead is such a threat your in the wrong place. Your jealous of his love that he had for her but your allowed to have loved in your past.<br />If the widower has had one wife and shes gone and he is searching and the woman he meets has been married three, four , five times...possibly he doesn't have the issue, but you do.<br />Stop trying to be his band aid...I am all female and I get tired of listening to other women on this subject. Stop talking about it to everyone and put your energy into fixing your home if your married. If your not and tolerating abuse, non commitment or not being loved and you don't want some of it but you want others...don't try to change him to love you, state your case once what you want, if its not forth coming do what any woman with common sense would do...value yourself and leave and find someone to love you that is capable of doing so.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-16081468486308852502013-08-06T22:34:28.058-04:002013-08-06T22:34:28.058-04:00I know it isn't the same thing. I am separated...I know it isn't the same thing. I am separated for almost 10 years. One day we will be divorced but not now.<br /><br />Somehow I came to this blog from trying to find some tips on being alone; dining, going to the movies, spending a long weekend alone without the kids. <br /><br />Not the same thing but somehow still the same: being alone and without the comfort of being one of a pair. And somehow feeling the same stigma and reading has made me feel some understanding. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-26388974501401828332013-07-26T01:55:18.353-04:002013-07-26T01:55:18.353-04:00I was widowed over 2 years ago and want to start e...I was widowed over 2 years ago and want to start enjoying life again. Although I have lots of family around me I miss the company of someone closer to my age. "I'm looking for someone that likes doing the same things I do...and just wants to chat and be a friend for now and see how it goes from there."Dating A Widowerhttp://www.datingawidower.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-53813963151960231832013-07-08T22:16:38.777-04:002013-07-08T22:16:38.777-04:00Bill, Wow, another hair splitter like me. Yup. Tha...Bill, Wow, another hair splitter like me. Yup. Thanks for chipping in. <br />Best,<br />SupaSupa Dupa Freshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07659738264922395349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-32378936965047189532013-07-08T22:06:02.717-04:002013-07-08T22:06:02.717-04:00I haven't read all the replies, but I think th...I haven't read all the replies, but I think the blogger and some of the people reading/replying are confusing some things. Here's my take:<br /><br />1. The ONLY person who totally and truly understands your loss is YOU. Period. Even people who have had a similar loss have only a ballpark idea. <br /><br />2. That said, there is an understanding between people who have suffered the same kind of loss that others simply do not, cannot possibly have. That's not a criticism; it's simply not possible. You have to live it to truly "get it." <br /><br />3. But THAT said, it doesn't mean others can't sympathize or be helpful and compassionate and great to have in our lives (etc etc).<br /><br />Billnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-63681624891563877812013-07-01T15:37:46.769-04:002013-07-01T15:37:46.769-04:00Gina, I'm so sorry for the additional trouble ...Gina, I'm so sorry for the additional trouble the family has brought to you. I hope you can feel a little peace, a little warm memory of what was good about your time together, sometimes when you say your son's name. Let it be a little bit of blessing as you take good care of them. <br />We hear these stories a lot on Widowed Village and they can be such nightmares! Really unfair.<br />X<br />SupaSupa Dupa Freshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07659738264922395349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-35401141505023815432013-06-28T22:32:42.121-04:002013-06-28T22:32:42.121-04:00honestly, i haven't allowed myself to cry for...honestly, i haven't allowed myself to cry for weeks now - i'm so tired of it so i supress it. my marriage was the best 12 years of my life. we were living in paradise surrounded by chaos. his family made life hard, but we found a way around it...when he got sick everything escalated. finally close to the end of his life i had no other option but to file for a restraining order against his parents - they (she) were determined that i was unfit. the court saw otherwise. he and i talked about what i would do if.....he wanted me to just drive away, pack what i needed for myself and the children and go. i choses responsibility. his viewing,(closed), was announced in the local paper along with a private burial. his family took the little rein i gave for their greiving, at my husbands wishes they had a "private viewing", and ran with it by having a seperate funeral. the majority of the family went to the funeral not planed by me, only a mere handful of people arrived to support the children and me the next day. i did end up driving away but only after getting everything in order and having an auction just 5 weeks after putting his body in the ground. then we left on the annaversary of our first date, 6 weeks after the funeral. we moved 1000+ miles away for the protection of the children and no one here know him. most days i feel like i'm living a delusion, he never existed. no one says his name but me. he was a good man. inspite of his upbringing and his family - everyone who knew him loved him. it is so hard to be somewhere where no one even knows his name, or who he was. for our children i endure this however painful it is. our littlest boy carries his name and at 6 years old you can imagin how ofter i say it. but there is still a difference between calling the daddy and calling the son. to say i miss him doesn't come close to how i feel. it's so much bigger than that, and being so far from others that remember and would talk makes it that much harder. harder yet is that the few family that were left with contact info, don't. how could he have been such an amazing man and chosen a wife not worthy of contact? i wonder. it's all good, God will sort it out. my primary job now is raising his children in the way he asked and i agreed with.gina foore. bryan's honeygirlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-49722666874972791002013-06-28T01:38:34.051-04:002013-06-28T01:38:34.051-04:00I'd like to comment. I am a looooong time hosp...I'd like to comment. I am a looooong time hospice nurse and specialist. I'd like to start off by saying that a lot of what is posted here seems to be extended grief due to lack of education. I will first make it clear that the use of morphine sulfate does not expedite death. It is a pain medication, it is also used for respiratory distress relief. That's all. People believe that every hospice uses morphine to "kill" people, and that is not at all true. Short acting morphine is also often lamed for causing "poor response" or "coma" which is also not true. As people experience physical deterioration, organ failure, and chemical imbalance due to imminent death, AMS and poor respnse are common. It is very rarely medication related, yet medications get he blame because "something must be causing this sleep" comes to mind. People NEVER die like what you see in a movie. Hollywood has ruined our perceptions. It is common for individuals to be unresponsive for over a week before death. Congestion is also common in nearly 50% of deaths. When someone is pronounced dead, their heart is no longer beating despite a pacemaker. Pacemakers don't sustain life in that respect. Hallucinations happen sometimes, and it is often NOT medication related. It is also a violation for nurses to "update" family members about patients unless approved by the poa or patient...so please understand that. Hospice is truly amazing, and don't let a bad experience convince you that nurses like me don't do amazing work.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-41284044631403862792013-06-27T01:45:05.482-04:002013-06-27T01:45:05.482-04:00personally i don't like stereotype, but people...personally i don't like stereotype, but people entitle to their opinion<br /><br />my wife passed away 3 yrs ago, and i haven't dating other people ever since...<br /><br />but, when i'm putting my self out there, i'm trying to be like single people again. i know i have baggage, but i don't want trouble other people with my baggage. i know maybe sometime i talk about my wife, but that's part of my history<br /><br />and when you trying to be serious in relationship, communication is the key, how to compromise. sometimes people have shrines with their past spouse, but now you live with the new ones, please respect the living, he/she you live with from now on..Andheenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-40491561976181965752013-06-10T10:17:15.559-04:002013-06-10T10:17:15.559-04:00Sad Sack, Oh lord, is that the moral of my story? ...Sad Sack, Oh lord, is that the moral of my story? I still don't know, but I suppose you're right. <br />I hope you can find a better way of getting through this... my MIL at least did not live with us. Please take good care of yourself FIRST.<br />X<br />SupaSupa Dupa Freshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07659738264922395349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-51972347566334788732013-06-10T03:45:36.661-04:002013-06-10T03:45:36.661-04:00Hearing your story might have just saved my life. ...Hearing your story might have just saved my life. My MIL moved into our house 6 years ago when she had hip replacement. A year ago, my wife died after two years of pancreatic cancer. MIL is stubborn as any 88 year old can be but I want to move on with my life. Duty and Honor have proven to be hollow lies that cover the rape and theft of the remainder of a grieving man's future. At least I am not alone.<br /><br />PEACESadSacknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-65932104065402802942013-06-03T22:12:07.407-04:002013-06-03T22:12:07.407-04:00And thank YOU for your kind response.
Widowed peo...And thank YOU for your kind response. <br />Widowed people his age are fairly rare, especially men, so I don't know how useful it is to generalize -- it's really about what is YOUR tolerance which is why the doormat question turns up so often. I do NOT think widowed people deserve such special treatment as they sometimes seem to get (as evidenced by Abel's trade) and I do not think that people who partner with people who were widowed are really all that special either -- they're just not emotional babies. But that's a topic for another day!<br /><br />I don't think you should worry about saying dumb things. I think you should think about whether you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy, without expecting him to "change" through some "stages of grief" or some crap like that. <br /><br />I love hearing you say there is hope for you to speak up, for him to listen, for you both to respond sensitively. It's a hint of it being "okay" if you say he treats you as #1. (More than a hint.) <br /><br />I wonder, too, if part of this is your own baggage (sorry) about the divorce. You know, you do deserve love and whatever happened, you could get in some great situation this time. This is not the last man on earth, and you deserve the very best. OTOH, most people are way too picky and divorce, like death, can really leave people clingy/gun-shy. <br /><br />Be willing to learn and grow... but please don't take any BS either. You have a long life ahead of you and probably a bunch of choices ahead, too. Make the most of them. <br /><br />X<br />Supa Dupa Freshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07659738264922395349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-43332608771588279762013-06-03T21:36:13.350-04:002013-06-03T21:36:13.350-04:00Thank you for your well thought out answer to my q...Thank you for your well thought out answer to my question. You Should be an advice columnist! The good things about this: he communicates really well, doesn't get upset or defensive if I ask about something. He most definitely doesn't treat me like 2nd best and it's wonderful. He is thoughtful, chivalrous, caring, probably one of the best men I have met in my life. But yes, I recognize in myself that I do have a history of being somewhat of a doormat in relationships. I have enough self awareness to see this is an issue for me and I try to consciously pay attention to my own behavior in my dating life. The really key thing you have keenly pointed out is that I do need to gently and respectfully talk to him more about the real meaning and motivation behind what he wants to do. That's important advice on all topics - hopefully others don't do what I did which was have a knee jerk reaction to what he said. It is always important to 'Seek first to understand, then to be understood.' This is the first time I have ever dated a widower and I am the first to admit that I'm in over my head and I'm probably going to say some dumb things. It's a bit like learning a new language. But I'm willing to learn and grow in this journey. Annettenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-64889068674565067492013-06-03T20:24:03.002-04:002013-06-03T20:24:03.002-04:00Well, traditionally, a memorial tattoo is done aft...Well, traditionally, a memorial tattoo is done after someone dies. <br /><br />And you have to remember that she is not a threat to you. There's no debating that she lived.... memorials, in some sense, demonstrate that the person lived. The tattoo is here, she is not. But people have all sorts of different intentions. (Personally, I find "MOM" tattoos on grown men as creepy as anything, and they are classics, right?) <br /><br />At any rate, that one symbol is used in so many different ways by so many different people, it would be silly to make a hard/fast rule about it. See the responses above to hear many different responses to tattoos, which were each worn by different people with different intentions. <br /><br />The real questions are still: <br />-- Does he treat you like second best?<br />-- Do you have a history of being a doormat to men? <br />-- Are you dating him with the expectation of being his next life partner, or just living in the moment? <br />-- What does *he* say, how does he respond, when you talk to him about this? <br /><br />What does your answer to those 4 questions tell you -- that's the answer to your question. <br /><br />IF I'm an advice columnist. But I'm not. But you asked. :-) Supa Dupa Freshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07659738264922395349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-72143772988203980232013-06-03T18:10:38.417-04:002013-06-03T18:10:38.417-04:00I am divorced and recently started dating a man wh...I am divorced and recently started dating a man who is 47, his wife died a year ago from a long battle with cancer. He is a wonderful man and I want to get to know him better and give this a real chance for a long term relationship. I haven't seen this issue in other posts, so I thought I'd ask. He is strongly considering getting a tattoo of his LW's name on the back of his shoulder. He has no other tattoos. If he had this done while they were together I would have understood, but doing it a year after her death? Isn't he just basically permanently inking a "no trespass, property of LW" on his body? If I were dating a divorced guy and he told me in 1 breath that he wants to be my boyfriend and in the next breath says he wants to tattoo the name of a prior woman he was with on his body, I would run for the hills. It seems like a red flag to me that he is not ready to make room in his thoughts and feelings for a new relationship. Annettenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-13934283241980800862013-05-29T14:08:34.450-04:002013-05-29T14:08:34.450-04:00I spent much of my first year as a widow watching ...I spent much of my first year as a widow watching Buffy, too, and it was very healing for me. I started watching it out of a desire to feel close to my husband because he had loved the show and I had never really watched it, then I started to really love it.Sherinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-22263695795193877582013-04-26T14:06:39.388-04:002013-04-26T14:06:39.388-04:00Betty, come join Widowed and Remarried on Facebook...Betty, come join Widowed and Remarried on Facebook! It's for anyone in a durable new relationship. You'll find many who have been there!<br /><br />Thanks for your comment. <br /><br />X Supa Dupa Freshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07659738264922395349noreply@blogger.com