tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post5393262096358055346..comments2023-07-31T09:35:21.967-04:00Comments on Fresh Widow: "Moving On"Supa Dupa Freshhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07659738264922395349noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-18275139245176716922009-10-05T10:37:41.634-04:002009-10-05T10:37:41.634-04:00Amy and I moved from Austin to Houston (relocation...Amy and I moved from Austin to Houston (relocation for my job) less than a year after we completely replaced the HVAC system in the Austin house. It was *so* annoying.Bill Bradfordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08883378157238011283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-26131632421773669042009-09-27T00:56:05.209-04:002009-09-27T00:56:05.209-04:00This is a very complex post - so many threads wove...This is a very complex post - so many threads woven in and out, around and between the concept of moving on (a pretty loaded topic for the widowed). I particularly liked your description of the "widow weeds" (I'd never heard of this before but it was sure true in my yard). I also found great insight into your observations about leaving behind a home (all that was good and not so good within those walls). And the realization that memories as well as tangible evidence - your husband's handyman efforts, complicate the entire mix!<br /><br />Your arrangement about switching homes is interesting and it is good that it can work out to everyone's advantage! How is your daughter dealing with the move? I look forward to your continued comments on this topic - good luck!Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-18458251625789272302009-09-25T23:18:54.130-04:002009-09-25T23:18:54.130-04:00My move came between four and five years out. Life...My move came between four and five years out. Life had changed, but I realised that leaving the old house behind would change things more than I initially pretended they would.<br /><br />When everything was packed up and I'd finished the cleaning, I can remember the shock of seeing the house once more as empty as the day we had moved in.<br /><br />It's not that far away, and my work takes me around half a mile from the house a couple of times a year. Now and then, I take the short detour to drive past, but I always feel edgy doing so, in case the new residents think I'm stalking them. <br /><br />In your situation, that might take on a whole new dimension, but on the whole for me there's never really much to report. The trees I planted outside the children's windows when they were tiny have grown larger, and then they pruned them back. Last time I drove past, they had grown again.<br /><br />And if that's the biggest issue I notice when I go back, then I guess the move worked out very well.Roadshttp://thepriceoflove.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599655836040142750.post-29406204881955870552009-09-25T19:51:05.472-04:002009-09-25T19:51:05.472-04:00"we all say “moving on,” appreciating how und..."we all say “moving on,” appreciating how undescriptive it is, how ambiguous a phrase, how if someone else says it we resist."<br /><br />I have noticed the bristle that accompanies the use of the phrase and so I have at times bowed to the substitute "moving forward" although I think we do both really. And it is a phrase that on the surface says less than what is actually going on.<br /><br />Enjoy your new home.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com